http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty/ en-us <p>Wow, Joty, what a powerful message.  I'm going to call my my when I get home tonight.  Thank you for sharing your story.</p> http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_230688 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_230688 <p>Wow, Joty, what a powerful message.  I'm going to call my my when I get home tonight.  Thank you for sharing your story.</p> <p>Joty, that was a fantastic post!&nbsp; It's very interesting to think about the mother-daughter dynamic.&nbsp; I find that as I grow older, I appreciate my mom more and more (especially because I was always a &quot;daddy's girl&quot; when I was young).&nbsp; I suppose it's mostly about the shared experiences, but I also learn new things about her all the time.&nbsp; My mom so rarely talks about her past that my sisters and I are constantly finding out about all sorts of crazy experiences she has had.&nbsp; And just when I think she's going to react one way, she does something totally different.&nbsp; She's bonkers and I love her for it.</p> http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_230788 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_230788 <p>Joty, that was a fantastic post!&nbsp; It's very interesting to think about the mother-daughter dynamic.&nbsp; I find that as I grow older, I appreciate my mom more and more (especially because I was always a &quot;daddy's girl&quot; when I was young).&nbsp; I suppose it's mostly about the shared experiences, but I also learn new things about her all the time.&nbsp; My mom so rarely talks about her past that my sisters and I are constantly finding out about all sorts of crazy experiences she has had.&nbsp; And just when I think she's going to react one way, she does something totally different.&nbsp; She's bonkers and I love her for it.</p> <p>Joty-I'm so sorry.Thanks for posting that, though you made me get a bit teary-eyed!I miss my mom too and sometimes also think to call and talk and then realize that I can't.Mine is still alive,but due to health issues,isn't really there anymore.She sort of drifted away in bits and pieces and I never said good-bye and now it's both too late and too early to do that.We were opposites and weren't always close,but she was there for me and helped me and was a great grandmother in her day and my kids miss her too.Sadly enough,sometimes missing her is easier than seeing her as she now is.</p> http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_230811 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_230811 <p>Joty-I'm so sorry.Thanks for posting that, though you made me get a bit teary-eyed!I miss my mom too and sometimes also think to call and talk and then realize that I can't.Mine is still alive,but due to health issues,isn't really there anymore.She sort of drifted away in bits and pieces and I never said good-bye and now it's both too late and too early to do that.We were opposites and weren't always close,but she was there for me and helped me and was a great grandmother in her day and my kids miss her too.Sadly enough,sometimes missing her is easier than seeing her as she now is.</p> <p><span style="color: #0000ff">My Mom died 7 months ago then my Grandma died 6 weeks after her and I miss those two so very much. If I could turn back the clock there is so much I would say and do for them, but mostly I would hold them and tell them how much I love them.</span> <span style="color: #0000ff">I feel blessed that I was there when my Mom took her last breathe and I was able to see my Grandma the day she died and tell her how much I love her. I wanted to be there for them in their last moment like they were always there for me. <span style="color: #0000ff">Without the two of them being there for&nbsp; me and supporting me I don't know where I would be now.</span></span></p> <p><span style="color: #0000ff"><span style="color: #0000ff">My Mom and Grandma were two of the most stubborn, strong women I have ever known, and they were both fighters! I have been blessed to obtain those traits from them, Sometimes it is convient and other times not so much!!</span></span></p> <p><span style="color: #0000ff"><span style="color: #0000ff">And Joty is right call your Mom to just chat with her and cherish every moment you have because things can change in a blink of an eye.</span></span></p> http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_230854 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_230854 <p><span style="color: #0000ff">My Mom died 7 months ago then my Grandma died 6 weeks after her and I miss those two so very much. If I could turn back the clock there is so much I would say and do for them, but mostly I would hold them and tell them how much I love them.</span> <span style="color: #0000ff">I feel blessed that I was there when my Mom took her last breathe and I was able to see my Grandma the day she died and tell her how much I love her. I wanted to be there for them in their last moment like they were always there for me. <span style="color: #0000ff">Without the two of them being there for&nbsp; me and supporting me I don't know where I would be now.</span></span></p> <p><span style="color: #0000ff"><span style="color: #0000ff">My Mom and Grandma were two of the most stubborn, strong women I have ever known, and they were both fighters! I have been blessed to obtain those traits from them, Sometimes it is convient and other times not so much!!</span></span></p> <p><span style="color: #0000ff"><span style="color: #0000ff">And Joty is right call your Mom to just chat with her and cherish every moment you have because things can change in a blink of an eye.</span></span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">The best lesson I&nbsp;got from my mom that I forgot to mention is that in our &quot;rocky&quot; relationship, I learned what <i><b>not </b></i>to do in my relationship with my own daughter. Not that we don't have our disagreements - mostly about the grandkids, lol - but we are close, closer than I ever&nbsp;was to my mom and for that I am forever grateful. My daughter was not the problem teenager I was because I remembered to not parent the way my mom did. My mom did what she did out of love, and with what she knew; her own mother (I never knew my maternal g'ma)&nbsp;was not much of a hands on mom. It wasn't always easy to allow my daughter to be her own person, but I remembered that lesson learned.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Thanks Susie, I hope you had a good conversation with your mom!</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Ginger, my paternal Grandmother disappeared into her own mind before she died, I understand what it must be like with your mother.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Madkow - love the new picture!!! Can he get <i><b>any </b></i>cuter? I know what you mean, I didn't really appreciate my mom until after I had my first kid (my own daughter). Then most of it began to make sense...</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">eek, your pain - a double dose -&nbsp;is still very fresh...I hope in time it will ease for you.</span></p> http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_231186 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_231186 <p><span style="font-size: small">The best lesson I&nbsp;got from my mom that I forgot to mention is that in our &quot;rocky&quot; relationship, I learned what <i><b>not </b></i>to do in my relationship with my own daughter. Not that we don't have our disagreements - mostly about the grandkids, lol - but we are close, closer than I ever&nbsp;was to my mom and for that I am forever grateful. My daughter was not the problem teenager I was because I remembered to not parent the way my mom did. My mom did what she did out of love, and with what she knew; her own mother (I never knew my maternal g'ma)&nbsp;was not much of a hands on mom. It wasn't always easy to allow my daughter to be her own person, but I remembered that lesson learned.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Thanks Susie, I hope you had a good conversation with your mom!</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Ginger, my paternal Grandmother disappeared into her own mind before she died, I understand what it must be like with your mother.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Madkow - love the new picture!!! Can he get <i><b>any </b></i>cuter? I know what you mean, I didn't really appreciate my mom until after I had my first kid (my own daughter). Then most of it began to make sense...</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">eek, your pain - a double dose -&nbsp;is still very fresh...I hope in time it will ease for you.</span></p> <p><span style="color: #0000ff">Dealing with my Families losses has been very difficult, but we are all hanging in there and as each day passes it gets a little easier. Just after my Grandma died, about 6 weeks my Step-Grandfather died from kidney failure and a broken heart. The pain sometimes is unbearable but I am a staying strong for my kid's,husband,and brother, I have to be the strong one.</span></p> http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_231540 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/Joty//#c_231540 <p><span style="color: #0000ff">Dealing with my Families losses has been very difficult, but we are all hanging in there and as each day passes it gets a little easier. Just after my Grandma died, about 6 weeks my Step-Grandfather died from kidney failure and a broken heart. The pain sometimes is unbearable but I am a staying strong for my kid's,husband,and brother, I have to be the strong one.</span></p>