http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/charlee/19030 Tehachapi lost one of its young shining stars on this past Christmas night. Cierra Redenius was killed in a traffic accident on Highway 14, on her way home from a holiday trip. According to the newspaper report, she was almost home, just north of Lancaster, when the car she was in rolled over, killing her. I did not know Cierra. I might have met her in passing; she may have been one of the many kids who visited my son on any number of occasions. She was in my son's graduating class; in fact, her photo shares a page with my son's in their graduation yearbook. After I read the story of her death in the Bakersfield newspaper, I went there looking for her, hoping to place a face to a name that sounded familiar. And there she was, young and beautiful and full of the promise of future years that will no longer be. I cried for her, as did my son, who was her friend, and who&nbsp;is heartbroken at the news of her accident. I cried most, I think, for her family, her parents, because I know how they feel now. For them, a life colored in shades of gray is only just beginning. I know, firsthand, because I just spent my fifth Christmas without my youngest son, Jordan. I lost Jordan in a different tragedy in June 2003, when he was only ten years old. I still miss him, still cry for him, and life remains gray in his absence. Nothing has been exactly right since Jordan has been gone, and I know that the same will be true for Cierra's family, who are now faced with the horrible reality of life spent missing their child instead of watching her thrive in a joyful future that they surely imagined for her. Cierra deserved so much better than a tragic end, as did my Jordan, and every other child who dies before they have had a chance to show the world what they had to offer. But such things happen, unfortunately, far too often. None of us have the remotest clue as to just how long our personal &quot;forever&quot; might be. Some say, &quot;such is life&quot;, but I say such is the nature of death, the heartbreak that lies in wait for us all. Every one of us will someday lose someone we believe we cannot live without. So much more the reason that we must appreciate those we love, every minute, and never for a second believe that a tragedy cannot strike us where our lifeblood flows. Show your love for your family, your friends. Do not fear the words &quot;I love you&quot;. Never part from one another without a kiss or a hug goodbye, for you never know if that will be your last chance. That last hug could be your only comfort someday.&nbsp;It could also instead be a haunting regret if neglected. To the family of Cierra,&nbsp;I wish you peace, and the memory of her love forever. Know that you are not alone, and that someday, the colors, although forever changed, will begin to creep back into your lives. Tehachapi lost one of its young shining stars on this past Christmas night. Cierra Redenius was killed in a traffic accident on Highway 14, on her way home from a holiday trip. According to the newspaper report, she was almost home, just north of Lancaster, when the car she was in rolled over, killing her. I did not know Cierra. I might have met her in passing; she may have been one of the many kids who visited my son on any number of occasions. She was in my son's graduating class; in fact, her photo shares a page with my son's in their graduation yearbook. After I read the story of her death in the Bakersfield newspaper, I went there looking for her, hoping to place a face to a name that sounded familiar. And there she was, young and beautiful and full of the promise of future years that will no longer be. I cried for her, as did my son, who was her friend, and who&nbsp;is heartbroken at the news of her accident. I cried most, I think, for her family, her parents, because I know how they feel now. For them, a life colored in shades of gray is only just beginning. I know, firsthand, because I just spent my fifth Christmas without my youngest son, Jordan. I lost Jordan in a different tragedy in June 2003, when he was only ten years old. I still miss him, still cry for him, and life remains gray in his absence. Nothing has been exactly right since Jordan has been gone, and I know that the same will be true for Cierra's family, who are now faced with the horrible reality of life spent missing their child instead of watching her thrive in a joyful future that they surely imagined for her. Cierra deserved so much better than a tragic end, as did my Jordan, and every other child who dies before they have had a chance to show the world what they had to offer. But such things happen, unfortunately, far too often. None of us have the remotest clue as to just how long our personal &quot;forever&quot; might be. Some say, &quot;such is life&quot;, but I say such is the nature of death, the heartbreak that lies in wait for us all. Every one of us will someday lose someone we believe we cannot live without. So much more the reason that we must appreciate those we love, every minute, and never for a second believe that a tragedy cannot strike us where our lifeblood flows. Show your love for your family, your friends. Do not fear the words &quot;I love you&quot;. Never part from one another without a kiss or a hug goodbye, for you never know if that will be your last chance. That last hug could be your only comfort someday.&nbsp;It could also instead be a haunting regret if neglected. To the family of Cierra,&nbsp;I wish you peace, and the memory of her love forever. Know that you are not alone, and that someday, the colors, although forever changed, will begin to creep back into your lives. en-us Charlee, I heard about this on the news and felt the same way. I grieve every waking hour for my 19 year old son Joe. I lost him 10/4/07. He was 30 seconds from the safety of our neighborhood. I must drive by the accident scene every morning and early evening. What you say is true. Love your family, hug them, kiss them often as they could be gone in an instant. http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/charlee/19030/#c_176467 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/charlee/19030/#c_176467 Charlee, I heard about this on the news and felt the same way. I grieve every waking hour for my 19 year old son Joe. I lost him 10/4/07. He was 30 seconds from the safety of our neighborhood. I must drive by the accident scene every morning and early evening. What you say is true. Love your family, hug them, kiss them often as they could be gone in an instant. <p>I am really glad that you posted this charlee. My heart goes out to the family of Cierra and also to you and gillfish. I cannot even fathom the grief and pain that comes with the loss of a child at such a young age. Your words are very touching, very heartfelt, and they hit the nail directly on the head. It brought tears to my eyes.</p> <p>The only guarantee any of us are granted in our lives is that one day our time on earth will be the over. It is the one common denominator that affects everyone on earth regardless of age, race, religion. color etc. </p> <p>Every moment we have on earth we should cherish and surround ourselves with the love and support of family. Laugh, love, hug and hold the people that mean the world to you and never let your love go unspoken. Whether through conversation or a hand written note, let the people you care about know how much love you have in your heart for them because none of us know when our time here will be through.</p> http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/charlee/19030/#c_176501 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/charlee/19030/#c_176501 <p>I am really glad that you posted this charlee. My heart goes out to the family of Cierra and also to you and gillfish. I cannot even fathom the grief and pain that comes with the loss of a child at such a young age. Your words are very touching, very heartfelt, and they hit the nail directly on the head. It brought tears to my eyes.</p> <p>The only guarantee any of us are granted in our lives is that one day our time on earth will be the over. It is the one common denominator that affects everyone on earth regardless of age, race, religion. color etc. </p> <p>Every moment we have on earth we should cherish and surround ourselves with the love and support of family. Laugh, love, hug and hold the people that mean the world to you and never let your love go unspoken. Whether through conversation or a hand written note, let the people you care about know how much love you have in your heart for them because none of us know when our time here will be through.</p> <p><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">Rod And DeAnn~ I can't even express in words how sorry I am to hear of Cierra's accident. There are no words anybody can say at a time like this. The strength will come from God, and he will help you find peace in your hearts in time. Although we have been out of touch for years, I have known you both since I was a kid, and feel like you are part of my family from my youth. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.</font></p> <p><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">Leanna Tait ( VANWAVEREN)</font></p> http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/charlee/19030/#c_176575 http://www.tehachapinews.com/home/Blog/charlee/19030/#c_176575 <p><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">Rod And DeAnn~ I can't even express in words how sorry I am to hear of Cierra's accident. There are no words anybody can say at a time like this. The strength will come from God, and he will help you find peace in your hearts in time. Although we have been out of touch for years, I have known you both since I was a kid, and feel like you are part of my family from my youth. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.</font></p> <p><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">Leanna Tait ( VANWAVEREN)</font></p>