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Floyd and Marie had problems, but whenever Floyd brought one up, Marie became sad and quiet. If Floyd pushed Marie to talk, she withdrew even more.In couple counseling Floyd admitted he wasn't the easiest guy to talk to: “I get excited and raise my voice. I'm impatient; I'll interrupt Marie before she's finished. People tell me I'm stubborn. I've tried discussing things calmly and patiently, but it's so hard!” I responded, “Floyd, calm and patient isn't your natural style. You're high energy and outspoken, while Marie is gentle and easygoing. Your personality overwhelms her. Until you learn to talk more calmly (and that may be a long time), you two need to take a totally different approach to discussing serious issues. I suggest you write to her in short paragraphs. Marie, you can respond in writing or by talking, as long as you keep it short.”Floyd took up his pen and wrote, “Marie, I want you to be able to talk to me and tell me what you really feel....
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