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Posted by editor Mon Aug 28, 2006 16:50:47 PDT
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0 responses 0 comments Wisdom of the week: The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

Dear C.C.: I’ve recently graduated from Tehachapi High School and moved away from home. I really love what I’m doing, but being alone is just different and it takes some getting used to. What I’m most concerned about is how I can make sure that I don’t lose ‘who I am’ when I’m out on my own?

Dear Newly Independent: Being on your own without the familiar environment of family and friends can often bring up anxieties and other emotions that come with change. Becoming independent is certainly a big change. You will adapt, however, sooner than you think. So really try to enjoy this unique time of change before it is gone. Try not to give up yourself in the rush to make new connections and ‘fit in,’ or become ‘lost in the crowd.’ Consider what others do and have to say, but then decide for yourself. Just because everybody else might be doing something one way, does not mean it is for you. In other words, don’t be a slave to what others think or do. Live in the freedom of deciding for yourself. Trust your own opinion because it is based on your unique knowledge, wisdom and experience.

Dear C.C.: How can I meet someone great? Because it’s like I’m a magnet for jerks. Is it my fault? Are my standards too high?

Dear Friend: Enjoy meeting all the jerks in the ‘relationship game’ you’re playing, because jerks help you become aware of what you don’t want. The truth is that the best way to find out what you do want is to become aware of what you don’t want. And may I suggest that they might not think of themselves as jerks... they are simply different from you with different standards (rather than too high or too low), different experiences and different goals. Also, you might be more comfortable with them on some level, so in some way you may be encouraging or ‘allowing’ them to make contact with you. Each day, each contact, every experience is getting you where you want. Don’t feel rushed – take time to see what life has to offer. Each person you meet will add to your experience of life.

Questions can be mailed to Country Wisdom, Tehachapi News, P.O. Box 1840, Tehachapi CA 93581, e-mailed to editorial@tehachapinews.com or dropped of at the Tehachapi News office, located at 411 N. Mill St.

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