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Posted by editor Mon Apr 16, 2007 10:00:14 PDT
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0 responses 0 comments Wisdom of the Week: It is not our difficulties that create pain in our lives, but rather our adverse reaction to them. When we start recognizing every difficulty as a blessing in disguise, changes begin to take place within and life naturally become more joyful.

Dear C.C.: I'm a single mom and because of financial reasons I've had to move back in with my parents with my two-year-old son. My parents think differently about raising kids. How best can we work it out?

Dear Single Mom: If this were simply a case of differing opinions such as with a spouse, it would be helpful to talk clearly and honestly (and without blame) about your differences, always keeping in mind that your son's needs come first.

However, while living with your parents, you will need to accept that you are in their home and that their needs come first, if they so choose. Essentially, you are a guest in someone else's home and need to act accordingly if you expect to be a welcomed guest for long. 

At two years of age, your son is going through some major changes, and it could be helpful to have another adult around. I suspect some of your frustrations about the differences in how to raise your son, are more connected to your having to live at home. Those frustrations are being directed toward your parents rather than your taking the time to understand their feelings. (You surely want your son to live in an environment of love and support). Having children in the home at your parent's point in life can be a huge adjustment. If you can work it out you can both work together to raise your son. If you can't work it out, then you will need to make the effort to locate your own living arrangements. It is up to you whether you are able to resolve the problem and stay.

Whatever you decide, please read again the ‘Country Wisdom’ above and try to be willing to see the blessing in what is happening in your life now because of your return home. With a positive approach, I can almost guarantee that you will be happy with what transpires.

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