Alyce Mae Crisalli
A lovely lady and a gentle soul left us on August 13 with the passing of Alyce Mae Crisalli, 82, who died in Bakersfield after a lengthy illness. She was as rare and unusual a person as the uncommon spelling of her name, and she lived in Tehachapi for 20 years with her husband, Al Crisalli Sr., who predeceased her on December 29, 2010.
Alyce loved life and her cheerful, positive personality was evident in every aspect of her life. She suffered from crippling rheumatoid arthritis since she was 30 years old, and she endured nearly 40 surgeries and medical procedures relating to her affliction, but never did she complain or solicit sympathy. Friends and family who visited her at the skilled nursing facility where she spent her final days often commented that she cheered them up.
Alyce loved the experience of living in Tehachapi, and she cherished our four seasons and the changes that come as each year progressed: she loved the snow in winter; lilacs in the spring; butterflies in summer; fruit-laden trees in autumn. She enjoyed cooking and treated family and friends with tasty results of her baking.
The daughter of Ray and Clara Arnold, Alyce was born on Feb. 6, 1930 in Fremont, Neb. She received an Associate of Science Degree in nursing, and in later years worked as a nursing assistant at Northridge Hospital. Alyce married the love of her life, Al Crisalli, on June 10, 1951. They were married for nearly 60 years and together raised two sons, Al Jr. and Scott, mostly in Granada Hills.
Alyce cherished her family, and treasured and believed in all of her family members. Her son Al has many childhood memories of her enduring love and support, often having something to do with his tendency to sneak away for hours at a time, exploring the creek and hills behind the Crisalli home. When Al Jr. finally came home, he’d receive a mild scolding, which was usually followed by some treat she’d been baking. He’d often bring something home from his adventures – sometimes it was a native plant to put in the yard, and Alyce would help him plant it, or more often a frog, lizard, snake, baby bird or some other animal her young son wanted to take care of. With the exception of the snakes, Alyce would help her son build a suitable home. One day Al Jr. brought home a bucket of crawdads, which his mom suggested he put in the tub. She was his advocate when it came to explaining his behavior to dad.
She had a deep, sincere faith in God, and as Alyce grew older and lost mobility, she often could be found sitting in her chair with a Bible and Daily Devotional in her lap, finding comfort in her faith.
Alyce simply adored her grandson Joshua and her granddaughter Julianna, and since the family always lived in close proximity as the children were growing up in Tehachapi, their Grandma was not a distant woman they saw once a year at Christmas time, but rather a vital and integral part of their lives. She championed her grandchildren as she had her children who came before them.
Alyce leaves behind her son, Albert Crisalli, Jr. and daughter-in-law Linda Ellsworth Crisalli; grandson Joshua Crisalli; granddaughter Julianna Crisalli Hamilton and son-in-law Ian Hamilton and great-granddaughter Anabella Crisalli Hamilton, all of Tehachapi. She was preceded in death by her husband Al Crisalli, her son, Allen Scott Crisalli, and one sister and three brothers.
She will be laid to rest with her husband at the Bakersfield National Cemetery in Arvin.
To honor her memory, her family asks that you tell a cherished family member or friend how much you love them, spend some time playing with a child, reading to them or teaching them to cook, and extend a smile and some kindness to a stranger.